🛠️ When Fixing Becomes a Form of Coping
Some people walk into a room and immediately start fixing everything. The situation. The mood. The unspoken tension. The broken pieces of everyone else’s lives. But no one ever asks them: 💔 “Who’s fixing you?” --- Trying to fix everything isn’t always about being helpful. Sometimes, it’s a survival response. It’s what happens when your nervous system learns that chaos is dangerous. That emotional conflict is unsafe. That your value lies in your ability to solve instead of feel. --- 🧠 Psychology POV: People who constantly fix may have grown up in: • Emotionally unpredictable households • Environments where their needs were ignored • Situations where love had to be "earned" through doing, fixing, helping So they learn: 🔧 “If I fix everything around me, I won’t be abandoned.” 🔧 “If I stay useful, I’ll stay safe.” 🔧 “If I take care of everything, maybe no one will see how messy I feel inside.” --- ✨ But here’s the truth people don’t always talk about: Fixing everything… hu...