Why Setting Boundaries Feels Like Guilt for Some People 🧱💭
It sounds easy — “Just say no.” “Protect your peace.” “If it drains you, walk away.” But for some people, saying no feels like betrayal. Drawing a boundary feels like building a wall in the middle of the living room. Unnatural. Uncomfortable. Almost... mean? Why though? --- 🤎 Here’s what’s beneath that behaviour... 1. They were taught that love = sacrifice. For some, growing up meant pleasing others to feel accepted. They learned that saying “yes” made them “good.” And saying “no” brought silence, distance, or anger. So now, even as adults, choosing themselves feels like abandoning someone else. Because their self-worth got tied to being available. Always. --- 2. They’re not used to being prioritized. If someone constantly ignored their needs, they slowly believed they didn’t matter as much. So when they finally put themselves first, their brain screams: > “This is wrong. You’re being selfish.” But they’re not. They’re just healing. 🌱 --- 3. They carry responsibility that was nev...