Beneath the Behaviour-------Seeing people, not just symptoms.

We’ve all been there. 💭 One minute you’re happy with your progress... The next, you’re stuck wondering: “Why do they have it all together while I’m still figuring things out?” “Why am I not as successful / pretty / smart / funny as them?” Here’s the deal — comparison isn’t a flaw in your character. 👉 It’s wired into the human brain. --- 🧠 The Psychology of Comparison: Social Comparison Theory Let’s talk about Social Comparison Theory — a concept introduced by psychologist Leon Festinger in 1954. 📌 What does it say? Humans have a natural drive to evaluate themselves — but since we can’t always measure success or worth objectively, we compare ourselves to others. 📌 Why? Because comparison helps us: – Understand where we stand socially – Motivate ourselves to improve – Feel connected to those around us 🧩 The challenge? 👉 In today’s world, comparison is constant — and exhausting. --- 🚀 Two Types of Comparison We Fall Into ✨ Upward Comparison — comparing to those we think are do...

Picture this. You send in an assignment five minutes late. ⏰ The brain? “That’s it. I’m failing the entire semester.” Or, you see a friend’s “seen” on your message but no reply. The mind whispers: “They’re upset. Maybe this friendship is over.” 👉 This habit of imagining the absolute worst possible outcome — often without any real proof — is called catastrophizing . --- 🌱 What Exactly Is Catastrophizing? Catastrophizing is a cognitive distortion — this means the brain takes a situation and twists it into something scarier than it is. 💡 Cognitive distortions aren’t intentional — they’re automatic thinking patterns that can make reality seem darker, more dangerous, or hopeless. In catastrophizing: ✨ A small problem feels like a huge crisis. ✨ A tiny doubt becomes a giant fear. ✨ A simple setback feels like the start of endless failure. 🧠 Our brain, trying to “protect” us, keeps scanning for danger — and sometimes, it overreacts. --- 🎭 How It Plays Out in Real Life 💼 Work: ...

✨ Ever met someone who always says yes? They’ll cancel their own plans, skip rest, or even take the blame for something they didn’t do — all just to keep the peace. Sounds kind? Maybe. But sometimes, it’s not kindness at all — it’s people pleasing. On the flip side, we’ve all seen those who help from the heart. They support, encourage, and lend a hand, but they’re not afraid to say no when needed. So how do we tell the difference between being nice because we want to… and being nice because we’re scared not to? Let’s break it down. 👇 --- 🌟 What is People Pleasing? 👉 People pleasing means doing things for others because you’re afraid of what might happen if you don’t. It’s kindness with a hidden motive — keeping people happy so you can avoid: ⚡ Disapproval ⚡ Conflict ⚡ Rejection It often comes from a deeper fear: “If I don’t keep everyone happy, I won’t be loved or accepted.” 💬 Signs of people pleasing: ✅ Saying yes when you want to say no ✅ Feeling guilty for setting boundaries ...

🌱 So what are attachment styles, and why should we care in friendships? We often think of attachment styles as something that only affects romantic relationships — but oh no, these patterns sneak into friendships too. 😌 An attachment style is basically the emotional template the mind uses to form bonds. It’s shaped by early experiences — like how safe, seen, and supported we felt as kids. Those patterns? They stick. 🌟 And before anyone says “But that’s just in dating” — nope. How we text friends, how we handle conflicts, why we ghost, why we over-apologize — it’s all connected. --- 💫 The Main Styles — & Their friendship energy --- 🌼 Secure Attachment 👉 They’re the comfortable ones. They trust easily and expect others to be kind. They’re good at respecting space without pulling away. They don’t assume you hate them because you didn’t reply for a day. 🌟 Friendship feels like: solid ground. Chill. Zero drama. --- 🌧 Anxious Attachment 👉 The overthinkers of friendship. ...

Ever been in a situation where someone suddenly stops replying, looks away during an argument, or gives you that heavy, wordless pause? That’s the silent treatment — and while it might feel like emotional rejection, the truth beneath this behaviour is a lot more complex than “they just don’t care.” Let’s break it down — gently. 🌱 --- 🌪 Silent treatment = emotional response, not just a tactic First, it’s important to know: people aren’t born wanting to hurt others through silence. The silent treatment is often a coping mechanism — something learned over time. 👉 Example: Imagine a person who grew up in a home where voicing feelings led to scolding or ridicule. As an adult, they may freeze or go silent during emotional conversations, not out of cruelty, but out of old fear. ✅ Some common reasons people go silent: 💭 They’re overwhelmed by their emotions and need time to process. 💭 They fear conflict will spiral if they speak. 💭 They haven’t learned healthy communication yet. 💭 The...

Ever come across someone who, no matter what, finds a way to dim the light in the room? ✨ You say: “What a beautiful day!” 🌩️ They reply: “It’ll probably rain later.” ✨ You share: “I finally achieved that goal I’ve been working on!” 🌩️ They reply: “Let’s see how long that lasts.” It’s not just “bad attitude” — it’s deeper than that. Let’s break it down. --- 🔍 The Hidden Roots of Constant Negativity Negativity is rarely about you. ➡ Often, it’s how their mind learned to see the world. Let’s look at why some people seem wired for doom: --- 💣 1️⃣ A Life Shaped by Criticism When someone grows up hearing: “That’s not good enough.” “Why can’t you do better?” “Others are doing so much more.” 👉 The brain starts to expect flaws and failure. 👉 They pre-judge situations because it feels safer than waiting to be disappointed. --- 😨 2️⃣ Anxiety’s Secret Handshake Some people’s negativity is just their anxiety with a megaphone. An anxious brain wants control. ➡ Seeing the negative = predict...

Ever met someone who starts spilling their life story five minutes after meeting you? You blink twice and suddenly you're hearing about their ex, their therapy journey, or their cousin’s weird divorce. 😳 It might feel like too much too soon — but if we look beneath the behaviour , there’s more going on than just “TMI energy.” Let’s break it down. 🧠👇 --- Oversharing isn’t always about attention. Sometimes, it’s about connection. People who overshare might feel lonely, misunderstood, or socially anxious. So instead of building up trust slowly, they try to fast-forward intimacy. 🕰️💬 It’s like saying: > “If I show you everything upfront, maybe you’ll stay. Maybe you’ll get me.” Especially in an online world full of filtered lives and superficial conversations — some people crave real. Even if it means being too real, too soon. 🤷‍♀️ --- Some reasons people overshare: 🔹 Low boundaries They may never have learned where the emotional line is. Especially if they grew up in envi...